Where are the Boundaries When You Need Them?

When I told my mom that I was thinking of moving and needed to really declutter a lot of things, she thought that meant she should too. Of course that’s not a problem at all EXCEPT she wants to give everything to me instead of actually getting rid of it. There’s no boundaries with her.

She just kept dropping stuff off. Even after I told her multiple times that I needed to get rid of things.

What makes it even harder is that it’s really nice stuff so yes, I’d like to keep it but no, there’s no room.

I keep explaining this to her but she continues to do it anyways. I’ve told her many times that she buys way too nice stuff and I have a hard time saying no.

It’s nice to get these things free but not when there’s so much, especially when I’m getting ready to move.

And so how do I create boundaries?

She asked me to take more things. I told her that if she needed me to take things to the donation center, I would do that for her but I couldn’t keep anything.

The things she had in the box were very tempting but they were passable. Nothing I needed.

Even though she still asks me if I want things, as long as I say no, she’s not quite as persistent as she used to be. This time, I was the persistent one instead and just kept saying no.

She used to get downright angry when I wouldn’t take the things and I was so used to it that I let her push me into taking things that I didn’t need. That only added to the mountains of things laying around.

Don’t let other people force you into taking things you don’t want, especially when you already have way too much!